tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5962387768878570514.post3629547327625071356..comments2023-10-03T23:17:59.861-04:00Comments on Puerile Psyche: Alfie Patten Not the FatherMarkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14835018457629824500noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5962387768878570514.post-33704975311226600092009-05-27T23:00:36.737-04:002009-05-27T23:00:36.737-04:00While reading about this story, people commented t...While reading about this story, people commented that a 13 year old doesn't know anything about being a parent.<br /><br />Indeed, and neither the 20 year old or the 32 year old or the 45 year old know anything about being a parents. The point is that you learn how to do something doing it. <br /><br />It is actually at the foundation of ageism. The hypocrisy of pretending to believe that people should already be master in something before they attempt it. The hypocrisy is that adults, like anyone else, learn by doing and don't apply to themselves this absurd beliefs they apply to young people. There are a lot of terrible adult parents but when teens want to become parents people project far more expectations on them (making them believe parenting is harder than it really is) than they usually do on other adults. And all of this just because of a stupid meaningless number on a birth certificate. Might as well judge people competency by their hair color.<br /><br />The point about ageism is that at some point, the parent or oppressive adult accepts a leap of faith and consider the "child" ready. But readiness doesn't exist. We humans learn by doing something. We start something totally ignorant (i.e. playing piano) and become proficient doing it. So what actually the various prejudices and laws expressing "readiness" do, is allowing a person to get involved into something he or she knows nothing about. He she might have got involved into it several years before, getting the same results, which comes from actually doing something.<br /><br />We could manipulate the myth of readiness to the point of proving that 40 years old are too young to do a lot of things, they might instead become able to understand and master starting at age 41. That's how people really believe that you magically become competent on your 18th or 21th birthday. Because by withdrawing your ability to get involved into something and allowing it arbitrarily someday, they generate the illusion that a person indeed was not reading for something and magically has become ready by age alone. <br /><br />That's completely tautological.<br /><br />Why you're not ready? Becase you don't know much about the thing you want to get yourself involved with.<br /><br />Why you don't know much about it?<br />Becuase you're not ready.<br /><br />It's pure circolar reasoning and the magic of finally allowing a persona to get involved with something, and hence learning from doing it, creates the illusions that the concept of readiness and competency is true and not a big mythological manipulation of people.Jimmynoreply@blogger.com